A past life coaching client and dear friend of mine inspired me to write this piece. When we met she was a competitive bodybuilder. She started battling binge episodes while on contest prep and confided in me. After a competitive season that wasn’t as successful as she had hoped for, we continued working together for a few months.
This had not been her first experience competing. In a past competitive season she obtained a first place finish and a pro card so she had once seen herself at extremely low body fat levels. In reality, her body type is not genetically lean and she now maintains a curvier physique. With consistent self development work, she learned to accept, love and appreciate her body.
Recently a woman asked her “are you pregnant or just chubby?” Wow - can you say TRIGGER?! She really impressed me by acknowledging that this comment triggered her and with the self love tools she’s built, worked through this magnificently.
Unfortunately we can’t control rude comments from other people, but we can control how we react to them and how we handle other triggers out there.
Top 5 Tips & Tricks
- Don’t take other people’s words and actions personally. Easier said than done and I used to struggle with this. I really had to reprogram myself to understand that everything other people say and do is based on all of their own life experiences. Whenever people are blatantly rude we can find compassion for them because they are hurting on some level. Whether they're having a bad day, going through a tough time, or struggling with accepting their own body. Maybe in their upbringing and environment making body comments was acceptable? Regardless, these comments actually have nothing to do with you
- Ask yourself the golden question “What am I making this mean about me?” Anytime we react strongly to anything with anger, anxiety, hurt feelings, etc we have an opportunity to learn more about ourselves. WHY do these words hurt so much? Remove the story and identify the challenging emotions that come up and work on those parts of yourself
- Remind yourself of your own values and beliefs. What does ‘health’ mean to you? Journal about this. Always remember, health looks different on everyone
- Take yourself back to a place where you felt good in your body. Whether this be a memory from a vacation, in the midst of doing physical activity you love, or thinking back to the best belly laugh you ever had - the possibilities are endless and this is YOUR experience. Close your eyes, take a few deep grounding breaths and find that moment. Envision it, feel it, embrace it. Remind yourself what it feels like to be in a happy moment in your body, and then journal about all the uplifting feelings and emotions you recalled
- Do a social media cleanse. Consider the messages you expose yourself to and what might be lingering in your subconscious. Rid your social media feeds of messages that trigger you. You don’t owe anyone on instagram anything. You’re not obligated to follow accounts that harm your wellbeing
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