A hot topic these days is the diet industry and the various dietary belief systems out there triggering unhealthy relationships with food. I know from personal experience what it’s like to be trapped in fad diet mentality and I definitely believe these unsustainable dietary protocols are a huge problem.
BUT! Always remember, triggers are not the root cause of any adversity! I can’t stress this enough. If you’re struggling with food, you must dig much deeper than food itself to ultimately find peace. For a long time, I (like many people) kept trying to fix my food rather than fixing myself. This only perpetuated my problems.
I observe many people on social media staying fixated on food. Not solely those on the fad diet bandwagon, but also those who throw around the terms “anti-diet" "fuck diet culture" "diet culture is keeping us small" and such. I feel this strong anti-diet culture really victimizes society as being plotted against by the diet industry.
The word “diet” is now being misused left, right and centre. The original definition of diet according to the Merriam Webster Dictionary is: habitually taken in food and drink.
So when we look at it that way, aren’t we all practicing some form of "diet” whether consciously or subconsciously choosing to eat a certain way? It’s more so a matter of whether we have a healthy mindset and sustainable dietary habits vs the modern way of perceiving this word, which many automatically categorize as a form of punishment. This way of thinking keeps us angry, and at the root of anger lies self judgement. Anger is an expression of feeling belittled, not good enough and devalued.
So how do we ultimately make peace with food? Well, because we are all different, this really varies from one person to the next and it does take time. However, I want to share some factors we must consider in the big picture.
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- Acknowledge, accept and allow yourself to have the issues you have with food. This is how we deal with them ultimately. The ego will try to believe we are perfect. The true self will compassionately accept the truth that we are imperfect, while also searching for more interpersonal fulfillment
- Take food out of the equation. For example, food guilt isn’t about food, it’s about guilt. Each and every challenging emotion you feel in regards to food is a great message for you. It’s a clear sign that you struggling with those emotions. Remove the story, identify the emotions you're battling and commit to shifting them. The majority of the work I do with my life coaching clients has nothing to do with food. We address the underlying issues that are being fostered into food, learn how to better manage challenging emotions, let go of the past, and embody a shift of perspective. We of course debunk bro-science as need be because as I mentioned previously, the triggers do play a role in the big picture
- Surrender to the concept that we are NOT victims of an entire industry. Stop blaming the diet industry and the fitness industry for your own issues. I know that some people in these industries present us with harmful information and it’s very important to identify your triggers. However the more you blame the diet industry, create a perception of unrealistic beauty standards you feel inferior to, point the finger at suboptimal coaches and influencers, and say that these things created your own unhappiness, the more you resist the actual issues that lead you there. We, as a society can’t stay fixated on feeling oppressed by an entire industry, and I feel this trend is so disempowering. As someone who overcame the fad diet mentality, and properly educated myself, I know there are actually legit people in the health and fitness industry
- Always remember, food has no moral value. NONE! If you feel shameful for eating foods perceived as “bad” or feel like you’ve been “good” when eating nutrient dense foods, this is linked back to deeper perceived self identity we create in elements such as expectations, significance and certainty. Are you attempting to meet other people’s expectations? Do you feel you are more significant if you eat a certain way? Do you struggle with uncertainty, and as such seek more certainty through your food morality?
- Asking for help is not a weakness, it is a strength. It is a bold courageous statement that you know you deserve more out of life. No one deserves to live trapped in an emotionally unsound relationship with food. Self sabotage is a tough cycle to break free from as it is rooted in familiarity which our egos perceive as safety. Change is initially uncomfortable, but the positive outcome on the other side is worth fighting for
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